As a child of divorce (my parents divorced when I was four), I can personally say that divorce can be, or maybe always is, hardest on the kids. It should be a decision of last resort when kids are involved and very clearly the "least bad" of your options in a bad marriage.

That said, it does occur and divorced dads have special challenges.

Divorced dads have a lot to prove since they will likely take at least half the blame for the break up of the family. If you're a divorced dad, you are also likely to have lost custody of your kids. You're less present for them everyday and need to make the most of your time with your kids.

Divorced dads should follow all the tips for regular dads, but should be especially attentive to these.

Never date or marry any woman who wants to put herself ahead of your kids. It doesn't matter how pretty, sexy, wealthy, intelligent, funny or seemingly caring she is. When you had kids, you made a covenant to put them ahead of everything. When all else fades, your relationship with them will be the strongest love of your life.

Never compare siblings. This goes doubly for step-brothers and sisters. If you compare them for any reason, at almost any age, you give your own children a reason to doubt your love for them.

Make twice the effort to be at every game, school play, and birthday.

A corollary to #3, move or stay wherever your kids live. Other places may beckon but your place is close to your family.

Never discuss your ex-ex-girlfriend revenge. This last might be especially difficult given the circumstances for your divorce. However, no matter how great the joy may be in the moment to say something negative about your ex-spouse, you will gain nothing from it in the long run. If your spouse is as bad as you say, it will be obvious to the kids. If not, they will hold it against you.

Every divorced dad has to carry his own grief and try to begin a new life again in the world. Remember that you are still a father. Taking care of your children during this crisis is your first priority. It's the only way to break the inertia.

Paul Banas is a founder of GreatDad.com. Discuss about planning a baby, sex life, spouse pregnancy, raising kids, child development, single parenting and other parenting related topics at his Fathers Forum.

Poisoned Petals by Andy Crabb is a set of over forty short stories, tales with a Spanish flavour. Most are set in Spain, with many featuring locations and people from within the Costa Blanca, where the author lives, works and continually observes. Some are historical, others utterly contemporary, both in time and in content. Property developers, estate agents and used car salesmen figure alongside more traditional Spanish figures, such as the bar owner, the peasant farmer and the land owner. Some stories feature characters from Spain's Moorish period, and others pre-Visigoth, even pre-Roman Iberians.

It is surprising, therefore, to read in the highly informative author's postscript that several of the pieces germinated elsewhere, in Britain and southern Africa, for instance. Some were transplanted items from newspaper stories, while others arose from museum visits, local tales or shared discussion with other writers. But the stories grew in Andy Crabb's fertile imagination and bloomed into a veritable display of skilful, entertaining writing. The fact that the author claims they eventually flowered into Poisoned Petals gives the reader a hint from the start that irony and twist will play their part.

Many of Andy Crabb's stories deal with the sibling concepts of ex-girlfriend revenge and retribution. People are often "getting away with something", getting one up on an innocent or unsuspecting victim. Driven to anger by such perfidious exploitation, these inherently gentler, law-abiding characters themselves become vengeful, calculating deceivers, until the score is decisively settled. In often morally satisfying conclusions, many of the original villains receive a comeuppance that is significantly sweeter than mere defeat, longer lasting than simple victory. And each of these conclusions has been richly deserved.

In Preserved For Posterity, for instance, the retribution of the wronged husband is horrid in the extreme. But then the unjustly punished lover-thief-craftsman of the story was never really guilty of his accused crime. We know that. But then that's perhaps why he has the final, though silent, laugh at the judgment of eternity.

So it is ideas of morality and justice, honesty and loyalty that suffuse Poisoned Petals. We are presented with people who try to ride roughshod over others, whose understandable, merely human hesitancy, born of their desire to uphold and respect another's potential for dignity, identifies them as potential prey. Usually the victims win through in the end, turning the tables decisively on their predators. But this often happens only after the victims, themselves, have displayed their ability to become, if provoked, as devious, as base, as calculating and, indeed, as mercenary as the objects of their retribution.

And so Poisoned Petals gives some beautiful insights into human behaviour, some vivid illustrations of resourcefulness. It is a collection to read over a week or two, a few stories at a time, since each is self-contained and memorable. The stories provoke us to reflect on that human condition, and profitably, enjoyably so.

Philip Spires
Author of Mission, an African novel set in Kenya
http://www.philipspires.co.uk
Philip Spires is author of Mission and A Fool's Knot, African novels set in Kenya. His fiction examines how people cope with social and economic change, and how culture relates to identity.

This article is only for those husbands who want to know how to kiss their ex-girlfriend revenge in a way that gets her sexual juices flowing. And, if getting your ex-girlfriend revenge's sexual juices flowing is something that appeals to you, then you need to know how to give your ex-girlfriend revenge a SEXUAL KISS.

Let's begin...

We usually learn about the power, the magic, the effect of a kiss as children. It's likely that there was a time when "Mommy" kissed your "owweeee" or your "boo-boo" and there was just something about that kiss that took all the pain away and made everything better.

But beyond this, kissing was probably something that was more or less "gross" until one day...a day you're unlikely to ever forget...a day that brought excitement to you like you'd never experienced before - that girl you had such a crush on, you finally finagled everything around to where you could kiss her...and you kissed her.

The result was something that was so powerful to you that you could hardly explain it. All you knew was that it was something you replayed in your mind again and again and every time it was just as exciting as when you actually gave that girl the physical kiss.

So, as you think about that, you can begin to realize that a kiss can be way more than your lips physically touching some other person's body. Your kiss can be something that's so "charged" that when you deliver it to your ex-girlfriend revenge it - when your kiss is just right, it causes her to:

Become aware of exciting possibilities that she wasn't thinking of before
Access that erotic part of her being
Notice exciting sensations that she wasn't feeling before
Create thoughts of romance and lovemaking
Anticipate feelings of pleasure, fulfillment, and satisfaction all derived from intimacy

All this can happen when you touch your lips on your ex-girlfriend revenge in a certain way.

Now, plenty of wives complain that their husband's doesn't know how to kiss. When asked to describe their husband's kiss, they say things like:

He's like kissing a frog.
It's like my Dad kissing me.
He's like a puppy dog lapping his tongue all over my face.
There's nothing in his kisses, they're lifeless - there's no feeling to them.
He just "pecks" me and then he's moving on - it's so fast there's no time to enjoy the kiss.

Obviously, these kinds of kisses are NOT going to get a woman sexually excited. So, let's talk about a kiss that will...

First, realize that your objective is to kiss your ex-girlfriend revenge in a way that causes her to feel a deep connection with YOU and the more intensely you're able to stimulate that connection she feels with you, the more you'll transport her into a world of pleasure where the only way SHE can reach closure is by engaging in the physical act of sex - WITH YOU!

As you keep this objective in mind, remember that it takes time to stimulate this connection with your ex-girlfriend revenge so just drop yourself down into SLOW MOTION!

Second, understand that you must TOUCH your ex-girlfriend revenge with your EYES before you ever touch her with your lips. Your eyes are a tool that you can use to stimulate the intensity of the connection your ex-girlfriend revenge feels with you - and as such, you should ALWAYS use it.

I can't emphasize how incredibly important and powerful this second step is. Your prolonged, LOVING, eye contact with your ex-girlfriend revenge BYPASSES her conditioning and programming and TOUCHES her at a deep primal, instinctual level that triggers sexual response inside of her.

Part of the reason this happens is because it requires strength and confidence for a man to be able to look deep into someone else's eyes and MAINTAIN that deep eye contact. As such, strong, loving eye contact SUBCONSCIOUSLY communicates DIRECTLY to a woman's mind that you are in fact an attractive man who is worthy of her desire.

In contrast, a man who drops his gaze, who subverts his eyes, who cannot maintain eye contact communicates that he is weak - maybe even untrustworthy - and definitely not fit to be a mating partner.

So, think of it like this...your eyes are the first thing you use to INITIATE intimacy in your ex-girlfriend revenge's mind so that she feels the desire to INITIATE intimacy with you physically.

Third, WHILE you are TOUCHING your ex-girlfriend revenge with your EYES, amplify the connection your ex-girlfriend revenge feels with you even further by slightly tensing your hands and fingers so that they will feel firm and strong to the touch and then you TOUCH her GENTLY and LIGHTLY with your FINGERTIPS.

You can put your finger tips on her shoulders - as if you were stabilizing her. You can drape the palm of her hands across your fingertips. You can place your fingertips on the OUTSIDE of her elbows. Or, perhaps best of all, you can cup her face in your fingertips.

Fourth, while TOUCHING your ex-girlfriend revenge with your EYES and FINGERTIPS, now ramp up the connection your ex-girlfriend revenge feels - so that she's starting to feel sparks - by TOUCHING her with your VOICE.

Say to her, "I'm going to kiss you - just because I WANT to kiss you...there's just something about you..." Be sure and let your voice trail off on that last part.

Fifth, shift the focus of your eyes to your ex-girlfriend revenge's lips and begin to move your face SLOWLY towards hers - move just a couple of inches and then STOP - almost as if you were inspecting her lips. Then, relax and soften your own lips and continue moving closer until you're able to slowly, gently, and lightly nibble your ex-girlfriend revenge's lower lip. Then pull back a few inches - as if you were doing another inspection - and just for a second or two - and then move back in and nibble her upper lip.

Now, up to this point, if your ex-girlfriend revenge in any way tries to initiate a kiss of her own or tries to get into a more extensive kiss with you, gently but firmly push her face just out of reach of your lips with your hands and tell her, "Uh uh...I didn't tell you that you could kiss me yet!" and then re-engage in completing the above steps.

Or, if along the way she says something like, "What?" or "What are you doing?" or "What's going on?" then quietly whisper a "Shhh..." to her and continue moving through the steps.

Once you've completed the five steps above, then you're ready to set off fireworks inside your ex-girlfriend revenge...

Sixth, after having nibbled your ex-girlfriend revenge's upper lip in step five, pull your face back, look deep into your ex-girlfriend revenge's eyes and say to her quite directly and emphatically, "You excite me!"

Next, let a sly smile ease onto your face and say to your ex-girlfriend revenge in a slightly teasing way, "Now, YOU kiss ME - and you better make it good - because if you don't, I'm going to paddle your sexy little butt and make you start over!"

Then, using your fingertips, GENTLY pull her face towards yours so she knows she can now kiss you.

Now, if your ex-girlfriend revenge takes off with an AWESOME kiss, then just let her lead - let her do her thing and follow her lead for a while.

If she gives you a brief kiss and then pulls back, then reach behind her with your hand, give her a light spat on the butt and tell her, "I didn't say you could quit. Get back up here and kiss me..." and gently pull her towards you (ABSOLUTELY NEVER USE FORCE) to re initiate her kissing you.

Ok, at this point, I'm going to leave what happens next up to you and your ex-girlfriend revenge. But, don't be surprised if your ex-girlfriend revenge's face is slightly flushed with excitement. Don't be surprised if she's breathing differently. Don't be surprised if she drags you off to the bedroom right then and there. And if she does, don't be surprised if she reaches orgasm incredibly quickly and powerfully. And, don't be surprised when in the days ahead - maybe even the weeks ahead - she makes comments about and references to you having kissed her...

SPECIAL NOTE: The above process is based on an assumption that you and your ex-girlfriend revenge have a reasonably harmonious relationship. If however, your ex-girlfriend revenge is emotionally and/or sexually estranged from you, then that needs to be fixed before you try giving your ex-girlfriend revenge this SEXUAL KISS.

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Your mom always tells you- "Stop throwing your pearls to the swine." You never really understand what that means until you have been broken- hearted several times in the past. And have invested so much time, effort and emotions in a relationship. You are tired of being blinded by the "idea" of love; you fail to see if your lover feels the same degree of seriousness in the relationship. As a person, you hate wasting your precious time with irrelevant people. When you are involved in a relationship, you always want it to be the last one. The real one.

You don't want to sound idealistic but you value your emotions, you value intimacy, you value love and you don't want some wiseass to take advantage of it. In other words, you value sincerity. You have kissed a lot of toads just to find your prince charming. Now that you have found your potential prince charming, you want to live happily ever after with him. But how do you know you are on the same boat with him? What if your prince charming is not so charming after all but a rabbit who is still hopping around looking for a better hole? In a relationship there are sex materials and there are husband materials.

When we become mature and had enough of the sex part, we realize, we need someone for companionship and that's when we appreciate having someone as a husband material. What exactly is a husband material? Before you invest emotionally and mentally find out if he is a husband material. Here are some few signs he is a husband material. There is no "I" in the word team- when both of you talks casually about life and future, he unconsciously uses the word "we"- you and him. This is an indication he treats both of you as one. He includes you in his plans and his future.

If he sees both of you as one, he is aware that what ever decision he will do, it will have a direct effect on you. Making him a responsible and dependable partner, truly a husband material. Another clue he is the one for you is when he is so in to you. He cares for you and your work, your friends, you family even your hobbies. He finds time to go to your family gatherings or occasions, even joins and assists in entertaining the guests. He takes time to help you in your take home work because he knows you are so stressed out.

He lends a hand when one of your friend is sick or in trouble. A husband material treats your family the way he treats his family. This shows he considers you as someone as close and as precious as his family. He also wants you to be a part of his life, he let's you meet his parents and close relatives and invites you to their exclusive family celebrations. He also let you meet his close and best friends. If your guy does these things to you, he is openly telling you are part of his circle of trust. Husband materials are a minority at these times, so if you find one, do your part and be the ex-girlfriend revenge material.

The author of this article Ruth Purple is a Relationship Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Ruth recently decided to go public and share her knowledge and experience through her website http://www.relazine.com. You can sign up for her free newsletter and join her coaching program.