All relationships are build on both giving and receiving. To really have a wonderful relationship in marriage, care and attention needs to be focus on a few key issues. We all need to learn skills in order to deal with a few areas that can go wrong from time to time.
Here are 3 areas that need attention.

1. Communication. The foundation to any relationship.
Most troubles in a relationship start by misunderstandings through lack of or poor communication in both receiving and transmitting. It is not what is said but how it is heard or received. Huge problems in most relationships are caused through misunderstanding.

a. A conversation is said to be 80% verbal and 20% non verbal communication. Your body language can say a thousand words so be careful what your body is saying to your spouse. Your words may be saying one thing but your body is revealing something else.

b. Learn to listen, really listen to what the other person is saying and ask questions to clarify their position on the subject so no presumptions are made in error.

c. When sharing information with your partner make sure that they are in a position to focus on what is being said. Get their full attention first, this is basic but this can cause problems. Its a skill that can be learnt.

2. Taking Responsibility for your part in any break down in your relationship.
During arguments that will occur, emotions will run high. When emotions are running high, common sense and rat ionization seem to go out the door making a bad situation even worse. Realize this, you will not get your partner to change, you have to make a decision to change your attitude first.

Remember "It takes two to tango". If you don't tango, the argument ends. You need to say sorry for your behaviour and change it, this means there can be no room for further accusations against you. This will effectively disarm your partners argument, lower the emotional level, enabling a make up. This is not easy to do, just make a decision to do it and stop going around in pointless circles

3. One of the biggest dangers in any relationship are the words " I don't care ". That attitude is a killer. For any relationship to work you have to care. Remember who you fell in love with and why. Focus on those loving memories and beautiful traits about your partner, those wonderful times you spent together. Remember those vows you made, to love and to cherish until death do us part. Very few second marriages ever survive, so make the most of this one. Do not run from your problems, face them, find a solution and fix it.

Having read to here means that you are committed to learn, understand and improve your relationship. This is a vital step, well done and good luck.

Wiseman.
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We all know that there are certain things you should never say to your ex-girlfriend revenge, but what about the things that you should be saying to your ex-girlfriend revenge? It's easy to say the wrong thing, but with a bit of thought, we can say the right thing and reap the rewards thereof.

So here are 10 things you can say to your ex-girlfriend revenge that will get your share price up!

1. I love you. (OK, if you don't, then remember that love is not a feeling, but a decision. Make the decision and say the words! After all, you made the decision when you got married.)

2. Yes my love, I'll fix it right now.

3. Choose a bodily feature that you have always liked, and compliment her on it. For example, "Your eyes are really beautiful." Look for some new things you can compliment her on too.

4. When she does something right, like make a nice supper, tell her "This is really, really good! You're a star!"

5. When you find her talking to a younger woman that you don't know, ask her "Were you in school with that lady? Not? Oh, you looked about the same age.."

6. When she's got a nice perfume on, tell her "You smell like heaven!"

7. You are my best friend.

8. I'm going to do the dishes for you; no arguments.

9. I'm taking you out for coffee and muffins.

10. I'm going to clean my garage out today. (It may take a week or three, but the mere mention of this task will get you into the pound seats with your ex-girlfriend revenge.)

Apparently, according to wives, when the husband works in the garage and fixes up the house, this is extremely pleasing to the female species, and causes them to nurture amorous feelings towards their spouses. In other words guys, it gives your ex-girlfriend revenge the hots for you.

A happy ex-girlfriend revenge is a creative ex-girlfriend revenge, a good cook, and a good friend. It is really worth our while to make our wives happy. It takes quite a bit of hard work, and generosity, and humility. But it pays off.

Hopefully these 10 tips will help. Remember to keep them honest and genuine. Wives sometimes know us better than we know ourselves, so don't try and bluff your way into her heart!

May your marriage be fun!
Duncan Kelly

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If you are lying on the floor of the kitchen, with your partner beating you to satisfy the latest power lust and all you can think of doing is to find a knife, it is time to go.

Your partner's life is not worth it. No matter how angry you have finally become, no matter the thirst to finally be free, no matter the desire for ex-girlfriend revenge, justice and yes, murder, it is simply not worth it.

There will come a time when you will look back at that scene in your mind's eye and you will no longer cry. You may not even tear up. You will remember, but the trauma, the shock, of wanting to kill someone just to save yourself, will have eased.

Instead, you will pat yourself on the back, kindly, compassionately, and you will quietly revel in your strength and your courage to get out before either of you died.

I understand if you do not feel that you can leave yet. The details of that departure may overwhelm because your inner trauma is deep, debilitating.

Start first with the simple inner decision to leave. Begin there. Then find ways to constantly nurture your inner spirit while you ask for help from Life Itself. Begin to see and accept Life as your partner, powerfully able to help you manifest your choices.

Do not worry about the how. You are the conscious creator of your life. Life responds to you when you make a clear, strong, immovable decision to love and nurture yourself back to sanity and a sane life.

Invest time instead on imagining what you will enjoy doing when you are finally free. When you are safe, alone and able, picture, in minute detail, the tiniest details of what living a life free from your daily terror will look like. End each quiet time alone with yourself with a deep, loud and clear four letter word - HELP.

In every moment of terror, pain and attack, scream that word inside, if you feel you cannot out loud. HELP. HELP. HELP.

And know, in the deepest core of your being that your answer is heard and will be effectively answered by Life.

With my deepest love and Blessings, Dearest One. I hold you in my heart. I pray for your freedom, your inner peace, your love for Self and your life.

Angela Chen Shui, "the Soul Alignment Coach" has taught social wellness and inducing consciousness techniques to individuals and groups since 1990. Angela invites you to request your own FREE personal values beliefs, social wellness and vibratory stress relief life growth coaching newsletter at:

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There are lots of ways to tell when a broken up relationship has gone bad, and when you are thinking about what to do when your ex ex-girlfriend revenge won't even talk to you, you will find that you may have come to a bad place indeed. Once your ex-girlfriend revenge has cut off contact in this way, you will find that there is a real finality about it. You may start to despair that you will never get back together with the woman that you are interested in, and you may also start to wonder what has gone wrong and what can be done.

If you are wondering what to do when your ex ex-girlfriend revenge wont even talk to you, remember that you are at a place where things must be handled very carefully. If your ex ex-girlfriend revenge won't even talk to you, you will find that you are in a place where something drastic may have happened. If this is the case, remember that constantly calling her and badgering her is not going to get you anywhere; in fact, this behavior can often seem threatening and it can have some severe repercussions for you. If this is the response that you are getting is pure and icy silence, take a moment to recoup.

This is the time to figure out what happened that brought you to this pass. If she is not speaking to you, it must be a far cry from when you were happy, so think about what brought you from one place to the other. You will find that unless you can figure that out, you might as well give up. Whether it was something that you did or something that you had no control over, you will find that there are many different things that you need to consider. Are you going to be able to get over it, and do you think that she is going to be able to get over it?

Remember that you should really consider what you say. What prompted her to stop speaking to you? What happened and what can you do to make sure that it doesn't happen again? Was it something you said or something that you did? If the lack of speaking happened after you broke up, you need to think about that as being part of the relationship problems, because it did make your relationship with her worse! Remember that everyone needs to be treated with respect and if you were not doing that, this can be a serious problem.

Do not badger her, but you don't have to give up, either. Send her an email thanking her and see if she calls you to find out why. People are inherently curious and you will find that this might be a way to get you back on speaking terms

Take some time and try to figure out what is going on. Not speaking has at least the benefit of letting you know that you have many different things that you need to consider.

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If you are thinking of the question "Can I Get My Ex Girlfriend Back", then maybe the relationship still have a chance to be saved. if there's any hurt that is caused during the split, then you will have to apologize to prove to your girlfriend that you are sincere. This is a good first step to win your ex back.

Can I get my ex girlfriend back 1st Tip

You need to show her the sensitive side of yours. You need to show her what sorry you are and how much you missed her. Try to find out what are the things she will respond to. initially, she may show anger and throws away things you gave to her. But it's ok, you just pick them up and try other things which she might like.

If simple things like cards and flowers doesn't interest her, it might be true. It's too simple and can easily be bought by making a phone call. She expects you to show some effort in your work that will touch her heart. This could be as easy as buying a blank card and writing your own words to express your feelings towards her and picking a bouquet of flowers specially chosen by you and present all of these to her.

Can I get my ex girlfriend back 2nd Tip

You need to be thoughtful towards your girlfriend. According to relationship experts, women often complains that men are not thoughtful and this will seriously drain the relationship. If you rarely do thoughtful things during your relationship, she might doubt the things that you do now. But it's okay and don't appear frustrated or angry, just take some time to do this and this effort will be appreciated by your girlfriend soon.

Can I get my ex girlfriend back 3rd Tip

You need to speak her language. It does not mean the conversation language, but the topics she talks about and is interested all the time. If you have been telling about your girlfriend about football and your computer or playstation games, most likely you are not speaking their language. Your girlfriend maybe interested in skincare, latest hairstyle, fashion trend, pendicure, hangbag and shoes. Just pick up a woman magazine and all these will be revealed to you.

All these 3 tips are important but if you want to get your ex girlfriend back, you need to have a proven step by step strategy and also some simple but crucial planning.

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When you suddenly find yourself in a break up with your ex-girlfriend revenge it is very natural to think that it really can't be the end of the two of you. This is even more natural to think when a relationship is fairly new. You may not be able to accept the fact that your ex-girlfriend revenge has left you.

Right now you may still be hoping that it all really didn't happen and that you will see her walk in the door any minute. If you are at the point where you are asking yourself "how can I get back together with my ex ex-girlfriend revenge" then you should also be asking yourself how you can create an intelligent plan to get her back.

If you really do want to get your ex-girlfriend revenge back into your life you should know that there are many, many steps you need to take before that happens. The following are just five things that may help when working through the process of getting your ex-girlfriend revenge back.

1.) Remember that it's not impossible to get your ex ex-girlfriend revenge back.
Almost everyone deserves and usually gets a second chance. Keep that in mind. Take some time to really think if you still love your ex ex-girlfriend revenge. Do you really feel deep inside that you want her back? Then ask yourself why. Could it be that you just don't want to be alone? Or is your pride hurting and you just feel you didn't deserve to be dropped by her? If love of your ex-girlfriend revenge is not the motivating factor then you should avoid trying anything to get her back because it will only lead to a bad situation in the future and prevent you from moving on to someone you really can love in the near future.

2. Don't act desperate.
If you come to the conclusion that this relationship is what you really want and you do love your ex-girlfriend revenge then acting desperate will ruin your chances of getting together again. You probably really do feel desperate, but you must be strong right now and not let her know that. If you are feeling that you cannot keep your emotions under control then be very careful and find another outlet. Maybe you can just talk it out with your friends or family and get the desperation out of your system. Just do not show your desperation in front of your ex-girlfriend revenge and do not stalk her!

3. Keep things positive.
When you control your feels and start to focus on the positive aspects of how you can work things out to get your ex back you will come across as confident. And that confidence will be very attractive to your ex-girlfriend revenge. Desperation and begging will make you appear too needy and drive her further away.

4. Take a break from thinking about why you broke up.
Your ex-girlfriend revenge may not even know why she broke up with you. So take a break for awhile and get your head together. Spend time taking care of yourself. Not only will you feel better about yourself but the new found confidence will radiate to your ex-girlfriend revenge.

5. Keep the lines of communication open.
Just because you are taking a break to clear your head does not mean that you shouldn't keep the lines of communication open with your ex ex-girlfriend revenge. You don't have to initiate communication, in fact for a short while you shouldn't do that at all. But if you see her around, be civil, be friendly. Keeping in touch on a casual basis is healthy and keeps you in her mind in a positive way.

Try to figure out your part in the break up. Spend this time apart trying to figure out what you may have done that lead to the end of this relationship. If it was your fault then see if you can change the behavior that lead to this situation. The break up probably happened because you were not meeting some of her needs. If you can figure that out you will be a long way toward fixing the relationship

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