Until the end of time, men and women will always be in and out of relationships. The reasons will be different for everyone, but all in all, there's nothing new under the sun-what you experience and wonder, thousands more also have, and will experience and wonder the very same things.

3 common questions men and women, alike, often ask, will be answered in my commentary, but let's first understand that there is never a guarantee of reconciliation; however, if you are even asking, "Can I get my ex ex-girlfriend revenge back?" chances are probably good that you can. The reason for this is that we generally don't "hold on" to a hope for something that, deep down inside, we know will never happen! So be encouraged in your pursuit of getting her back.

Now . . . let's look at a common complaint by women about men: MOST women grumble about their man not being "sensitive" enough, leaving men with the question, "If I become more sensitive, can I get my ex ex-girlfriend revenge back?" Answer: Yes, it's possible. But don't expect it to happen overnight-if this was a previous area in which you were sorely lacking, then she'll need some time to be convinced that your "new" sensitivities are an evidence of genuine change within you.

Some things to become aware of are: LISTENING skills-it's not enough just to say you hear her-how you take "action" on what she's said says that you consider her wishes as valid-which, in her eyes, makes her valuable to you!

Another thing to be conscious of is thoughtfulness or attentiveness-these accomplish the same outcome that you "taking action on her wishes" provided . . . the difference is that YOU thought of it! Get it? You THOUGHT of it . . . "thoughtful" . . . does it ring any bells? Anyway . . . that goes even further toward convincing her of her significance to you.

"Will dating other women make her want me back?"

Answer: I wouldn't recommend dating someone else for the sole purpose of getting her back-even if she feels jealous enough to take you back, it probably won't last because the original issues would still remain. Her taking you back would only be to keep you from finding someone else before she does. I'm sure you don't want to play those games-you want your relationship to be based on reality.

"Is there any chance I can get my ex ex-girlfriend revenge back if she's found a new boyfriend?

Answer: Anything's possible-the "new boyfriend" circumstance may not be serious (depending on how long you two have been apart); if it's not been that long, then start making your presence known by becoming the sensitive and thoughtful man we spoke of earlier.

Be a good friend by supporting her, complimenting her . . . and a little reminiscing doesn't hurt either, but don't go overboard with these things; it has to appear that you've accepted being apart. And whatever you do-Don't speak negatively against the new boyfriend, just occasionally "suggest" that you wish you had another chance with her because you know things could be different this time. Be smooth-we love that stuff!

Now . . . I've answered some of your questions, but understand that a few tips does not complete the process; you should definitely look into having a more in-depth approach to getting her back and keeping her. There is an excellent resource that can help you in your pursuit. You should check it out!

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Human minds are complex existence of us. One part of your mind judges each and everything, from the weather to your neighbour, basically everything. This Inner Judge uses the contents of your own Book of Law to judge everything you do or do not do, everything you think or do not think, everything you feel or do not feel.

Basically, everything is subject to the tyranny of this Judge. Every time you do something that goes against your Book of Law, your inner Judge finds you guilty, which means you must be punished and feel ashamed. This happens several times a day, day after day, year after year.

But parallel to this, another part of yourself, which we could call the Victim is at the receiving end of these punishments. This is the part that suffers the rebuke, the guilt and the shame. This is part of you that says: "Poor me, I am not good enough, not intelligent enough, not talented enough, I do not deserve to be loved, I am not good enough to deserved this, etc...."

And all these come from a system of beliefs which you have never chosen in the first place!

These beliefs are passed down from one generation to next generation whatever your background or culture. It's the same everywhere. The beliefs are so strong that even years later, when we discover new ideas and try to make our own decisions, we realise just how they influence our life. Everything that goes against these beliefs makes us feel fear and questioning them or contravening them acts as "emotional poison", generating more feelings of insecurity.

Even if your personal Book of Law is wrong, it does not give you a feeling of security. Our belief system, even if not of our own choice, is nevertheless something to which we have given our agreement. It's influence is so strong that even when we understand, in principle, that these beliefs are not true, we still feel guilt and shame and criticism every time we break a rule.

In the same way, the government has its laws that control the "dream" of its society, your belief system is the law book that guides your reality and your personal "dream". All these laws exist in your head, your believe them, and your inner Judge bases everything it says on them. The Judge hands down a ruling and the Victim suffers the guilt and the punishment.

But true justice plays not part in this. This inner Judge present in every individual is wrong because this Book of Law is false. 95% of the time the beliefs are etched in our mind are nothing but lies, and we suffer from our beliefs in these lies.

Face it, life is governed by fear and there is not a corner of our world that is free from human suffering, anger, feelings of ex-girlfriend revenge, violence, war of different scales, all of which is just a reflection of a "dream" injustice. It's the same state of fear one thousand years ago, now, and it will be the same one thousand years from now. It's inescapable.

Mere T is a spiritual researcher, blogger, and conservationist. She has benefited a lot from the guidance of psychic Maria Duval in the topic of spirituality. She lives in New Zealand with her family and she enjoys the serenity of her country as it helps her to build up on her spiritual bonding with the environment. Her Maria Duval blog is Maria Duval - Psychic - Clairvoyant

Boyfriends are using it to stalk their girlfriends, employers are using it to track their employees and parents are using it to control their kids. But, is it legal? The cell phone GPS surveillance industry is exploding. In the next few years it is expected to be a 20 billion dollar a year industry.

For a relatively small fee you can contact a cell phone provider and turn a portable phone into a surveillance and tracking device. But in most countries surveillance of an individual without their explicit consent is against the law. Whether it be monitoring whom you call, the contents of the conversation or your location it is a violation of privacy laws in just about all civilized countries around the world. You either need a law court's permission or that person's documented consent to use a cell phone GPS surveillance device to monitor them. Unfortunately the new technology is being used illegally far to often.

A terrifying example of abuse of cell phone GPS surveillance occurred recently in Oregon in the USA. A ex-girlfriend revenge divorced her husband because he was trying to control everything she did. This type of situation is not unusual. Often the ex-husband will continue to stalk and try to control his ex-ex-girlfriend revenge long after the divorce. In this case everywhere she went he would follow. There was nothing she could do to shake him off night or day. She was justifiably afraid he would kill her. If you look through the history of murders this situation often ends up being the motive. An excessively controlling man feels that he is losing his ex-girlfriend revenge or ex-ex-girlfriend revenge and in a fit of rage murders her as the ultimate act of control. She complained to the police but there was not much they could do. After several months of this going on the police checked her vehicle and found a cell phone behind the dashboard. The ex-husband had purchased a cell phone with GPS surveillance, hooked it up so that it's battery was charged by the car's battery and set the cell phone to silent answer. At any time he could call the cell phone and unless she was out for a long walk he would know exactly where she was and could even listen in on conversations going on in the car.

Unfortunately, your own cell phone can be used against you in a similar fashion if you are not careful. All it takes is for someone else to get a hold of your portable phone for about 5 minutes without you knowing about it. They can go on the Internet, register your phone with a cell phone GPS surveillance service and pay for it with their own credit card. All of this can happen without you knowing about it. The service will send several messages to your phone right away notifying you that you are being tracked but if the person erases those messages you will never know they set up GPS surveillance on you.

This GPS surveillance technology is not just for cell phones. It is showing up in a variety of portable electronic devices. It appears that watches will be the next big item to integrate GPS surveillance and tracking. Even today you can buy any of a dozen or more Timex watches that have integrated GPS tracking and surveillance. But along with this incredible micro technology goes a huge legal problem. Currently the software for these GPS surveillance devices does not contain significant safeguards against legal and privacy abuses but hopefully that will change before things get out of control.

Michael Russell Your Independent guide to Surveillance

It's 1:11 a.m... Do You Know Where Your Fishing Boat Is?

It's 1:11 a.m.

I am not sure I have ever been awake at 1:11 a.m.!

Now before you scoff and think, "what is this guy, some kind of Benjamin Franklin, early to bed,early to rise,blah,blah blah, guy....."

Let me clarify that I have been awake beyond 1:11 a.m. on numerous occasions.

Why just the other day, I was wandering around the house stepping on dog squeak toys,banging into walls searching for Tums in the dark,trying not to awaken any other inhabitants of the Klott household.

Of course by the time I had emptied all medicine cabinets, all kitchen cabinets, and turned on every light switch in the house in my futile quest for "the #4 combination plate ex-girlfriend revenge" relief, I had plenty of company and the usual "here it is right in front of your face", in the first place I had started my 2:00 a.m. prowl.

But I digress.

My point here, if there is to be a point, is that I am not sure I have ever seen the "digital clock" at 1:11 a.m.

It's just weird looking.

It wasn't alarming, like every time my calculator spits out a 666 and I think I am possessed,or earlier this year when I glanced at the clock when it was 1:23 on the fifth day of the fourth month of the sixth year.....that's 1:23 on 4/5/6 for all you Rain Man fans out there.....

No, it was just weird.

Now to the fishing part.

This post midnight toss and turn session was brought on by my constant worry about my newly painted and "spruced up" driftboat. Yes, if you follow these articles, and if you do --YOU need help-- you will remember that I have been nursing what was diagnosed as a torn rotator cuff.

Since my winter steelhead fishing season was in the tank , due to my bad wing, I decided it was the perfect time to repaint my boat. Well, actually my good buddy Gregorio did most of the work, but I made a great supervisor and held a sander every now and then.

It is now finished.

(The boat-not the rotator cuff.)

Aside from the fact, that what I thought would be a simple little weekend project, (do a little sanding throw a little paint on the outside) turning into a three month reconstruction of both my boat and bank account, I think I am having anxiety about using it.

It's too.... well....it's too nice!

(The boat-not the bank account.)

Before the sanding, grinding, replacing of floor boards,new gluv-it,new rubber,new winch rope, new inside surface painting, multi- toned metallic outside finish,and repainting and wiring of my trailer....

It was just a boat.

Now, it's some kind of showpiece. I'M AFRAID TO USE IT!!

I was planning on taking it fishing tomorrow, but I am afraid to put any scratches or dents on it.

The thought of fish slime and shrimp oil on my freshly painted Zolatone interior has me tossing, turning, and freaking out over some late night 111 digital breadstick message.

The worst thing is that I may not be done with my nautical spending spree yet.

Now, the oars look old,the old Evinrude boat motor is hideous, the tires and wheels seem ancient, and my TRUCK? Well, I am ashamed to pull it with that old 2002 clunker!!

Heck, even my house looks in dis repair next to that boat.

I have no room in the garage for it, so I will probably have to build a garage for it, or pay for covered storage somewhere.

I may lose another three months to home reconstruction!!

I just looked out the window, and it is still there, shiny and bright.

Maybe, if I slip out and drive it to some vacant field and abandon it, I can still save my summer fishing adventures, or perhaps I will just go outside and start denting and scratching it with a hammer.

So please heed my warning here and think twice before you take your beloved fishing boat and turn it into some unrecognizable glamourous showpiece.

I can never live up to it's expectations.

And if you happen to be in my neighborhood, be sure to throw some mud and a few fish guts on it.

That way, I can get back to sleep......

A.J. Klott

Author, writer of fishing humor, and "fly tack" peddler.A.J. writes about the people,characters and modern day events that surround the fishing world. His first book is due out in December of 2005. If you need a laugh or a fun gift, visit his website at: http://www.twoguyswithflys.com

Being human means we all tend to purposely overlook the 'less than glowing' parts of our behavior and character. Unfortunately for many of us, some of those aspects are the ones that need the most attention. And they require action before anything gets better. If you have an anger problem, the best way to begin addressing it is to increase your awareness as much as possible. And...

Learn to spot the various ways you can sabotage your efforts to manage your anger.
What follows are 3 important behaviors to watch out for:

First: You know a problem exists but don't take any action.

This can happen for various reasons. Some people know they have a problem but don't know where to begin or how to resolve it. If that's you...

Then the easiest action is to simply start educating yourself. You can find online information, or you can go to your public library. And as I said before, start increasing your awareness about your behavior. Most importantly, try to identify your particular anger triggers.

You may already have a good idea about your triggers. But try to be as comprehensive as possible. This will only help you later. Then...

Ask yourself if you prefer the help of a counseling professional. This could mean a one-on-one situation or group setting. It's important to answer this because your success will have a greater chance if you're comfortable.

The opposite of that situation are those who realize a problem exists yet consciously refuse to deal with it. There can be many reasons...

• Resistance to change that can result from fear of change.
• An over-inflated ego often prevents seeking help for any personal problem.
• Procrastination is rampant among us humans, too. And again, fear plays its part with procrastination.

Most of us don't like admitting our own faults. But successfully conquering your anger issues will involve living in reality and not trying to fool anyone. One of your biggest obstacles will be your very own ego. So be as objective about yourself as you can. You'll eventually discover it to be a powerful step to overcoming your anger issues.

Managing your anger can be relatively easy or as difficult as you want. It boils down to how much you desire to be free from it and the effort you put into it.

Start paying attention to feedback from others around you. Give yourself an honest evaluation about yourself.

Third: You believe your anger is justified... and you hold onto it.

This situation may be quite understandable depending upon your personal history and circumstances. But it really only goes so far...

Eventually your anger is only hurting you or the people around you. That's the point when something needs to be done. Positive action is required before your life, and the lives of those around you, will get better.

Realize that desiring ex-girlfriend revenge or forever wanting personal justice to happen is a function of your ego. I stress that some anger-causing actions are horrendous, and these kinds of feelings are completely understandable. Justice for crimes committed is separate from this discussion. I'm referring to the personal kind of justice, or 'getting back' at someone.

Justice isn't always a possibility, or legally needed. Often times the actions that caused your anger were not intentionally negative. Parents and other prominent people who influenced you were living in ignorance. And they had no idea how they were really affecting you. I know this from personal experience, but I also believe it's very common.

So the choice is yours, as always. You can continue satisfying your ego, or ask yourself what you desire the most.

Do you want to continue living with anger? Do you want to continue suffering the many consequences that chronic anger causes? Or do you want to take action to end it? While thinking about this... be sure to think of others in your life who are affected.

If you choose action to end your anger... then focus on your goal, get help, and do not ever give up.

Ken Thompson, http://www.EscapeFromAnger.com, is a survivor of living for over 20 years with chronic anger. He knows and understands from experience the issues and difficulties associated with anger. He also understands the difficulties involved with overcoming chronic anger. Ken successfully resolved the anger in his life through many years of self-study and personal effort. He offers a distillation of effective techniques designed to permanently remove chronic anger.