If your husband does not talk to you about what he's feeling it leaves you in a really difficult position. Women who are married to men who aren't emotionally open often find themselves having to second guess everything their husband is feeling. Most women have actually had to do this from time to time and it almost always results in the same scenario. You make an assumption about what he's feeling, you approach him about it and he shuts down emotionally. It's not an easy road for any marriage but there are things a ex-girlfriend revenge can do to help encourage her husband to share what he's feeling with her.

You first and foremost need to decide whether your husband does not talk because of how he's been treated by you in the past. Be honest with yourself about this. If you two have discussed your relationship in the past and he's been brutally honest with you about what irks him and you've become overly emotional, that's a problem. Many men want to share what they feel with their wives but they don't out of fear of her reaction. If he's accustomed to you breaking down, crying or becoming defensive during these discussions he's going to avoid them at all costs. Many men simply hold in everything because they can't deal with how their ex-girlfriend revenge will react. If you believe that's the case in your marriage, it needs to be fixed.

To do this you need to show, not tell, your husband that you have changed. If your husband does not talk out of fear of the result you need to prove to him that you are emotionally mature enough to deal with hearing about his feelings and his criticisms of you and the relationship. You can do this by remaining calm about any conflict you two have whether it's something as simple as a household task that one of you needs to take care of or something more serious like a parenting issue. Show him that you want to work with him, not against him, to resolve things. If you continually do this he will eventually open back up to you again.

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Is fun part of your normal-average-day vocabulary? Or is fun something you have to plan for, on a weekend, a special evening out, or on vacation?

More and more people seem to be subscribing to a misery loves company philosophy. The people I meet for happy hour all want to tell me why theyre unhappy instead of talking about their successes and the fun things in their lives. And the occasional positive thinker the one who always answers, Im doing great what a beautiful day it is! when asked how they are is talked about in hushed tones of mixed admiration and skepticism, as if theres something not quite normal going on.

Theres an old saying that what you focus on grows. It turns out that this is literally true. Neuroscience the study of the brain and nervous system tells us that our brains actually change when we focus our attention on something, growing new neural pathways (connections). So if you focus on how much you dislike your job, your brains connections grow around that thought, and shrink around any thoughts you might have about alternatives. Pretty soon, the physiology of your brain is built up just as lifting weights builds a muscle to support your gloom and frustration. Just as you wouldnt normally lift weights only with your left arm, leaving your right arm to waste away while your left builds disproportionate muscle, you dont want your brain to be strong in its negative pathways and weak in pathways around positive options and choices.

Of course, saying, Dont think negative thoughts! is a lot like saying, Dont think of a pink elephant. Our brains are very good at doing what theyre supposed to do think so when we try not to think of something, we naturally will. Youll notice, too, that this is another example of how what we focus on grows: giving attention to a negative makes it impossible to move away from it. Id add here that I do not advocate trying to ignore reality or pretend its something other than what it is. If you really do hate your job, worry about your finances, or fight with your teenager, thats real, and trying to pretend otherwise does not help any more than concentrating on your misery!

So what does all this have to do with fun? Simply put, I believe we all have a choice. Even in the middle of disliking a situation in our lives, we still have the option of enjoying ourselves anyway of having fun. Just because you dislike a circumstance youre in doesnt mean you are obligated to be miserable in order to prove how much you hate it. Another wonderful saying comes to mind: living well is the best ex-girlfriend revenge. Acknowledge that yes, you do dislike your job (or whatever your situation is) and then find a way, even if just for a few minutes each day, to have fun. Make a co-worker laugh. See if you can drive your cranky boss crazy by smiling beatifically at him every time you see him. (Smiling really lifts your spirits, too.) Put something on your desk that makes you happy, and look at it often.

Enjoy what you are doing everything that you do. When you sneeze, really get into it! When you have to do laundry, sing along with the washing machine, recognizing that by caring for your clothes, you are caring for yourself. When you realize youve run out of milk and have to dash out late at night, smile at everyone you meet and strike up a conversation with people at the checkout line.

Having fun doesnt mean you no longer dislike your job, your financial problems, or fighting with your teenager. And it doesnt mean youre giving up on trying to find solutions for your problems. It does mean youre refusing to let your problems have power over your entire state of mind. And it does mean youre choosing to enjoy yourself which means youre that much more likely to find solutions to your problems instead of just suffering.

I challenge you to find six wacky, delightful ways to HAVE FUN and then do them!

I never did a days work in my life. It was all fun. Thomas A. Edison, American inventor and businessman, 1847 - 1931

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When a pet dies we can feel the same degree of pain and anguish as when a human dies and sometimes this can make us feel silly or awkward. We have been indoctrinated from a very young age to believe that animals were put on this earth for our pleasure and culinary pleasure and that when they die, or in the case of farm animals, when they are killed, then that is the end to it. Only humans have souls therefore it follows that we are the only beings that can enter 'Heaven'.

Because we have speech and other higher level skills that other animals do not have, we have put ourselves on a moral pedestal whereby we have declared ourselves 'king of the jungle' and every other creature is subservient to us and as such, does not deserve the same level of sympathy, empathy, respect and treatment as we humans.

The church is very coy about the question of animals and Heaven, for they all disagree as to what we as humans must do to enter through the Pearly Gates, so the entry of animals into the Kingdom of Heaven is a non-starter.

This viewpoint is of course utter tosh as every animal has a soul and is a sentient being in its own right. Whether you believe in Darwin's theory or in the Big Bang it matters not for we were created all from the same materials, we all have DNA, we are mostly water, we feel pain, we can love, we feel fear etc. I could have been describing a dog , cat or horse there, for they all have the same attributes as we do.

Animals are like children, they need to be cared for and loved and in return they will give back unconditional love and companionship. So when they do die it is only natural that we should feel grief and a great sense of loss. It is a misconception however, perpetrated by the church, that animals do not go to 'Heaven'. Unlike us who kill for pleasure and/or ex-girlfriend revenge, who wage wars upon each other, commit genocide and other such crimes against humanity, animals are free from what we call sin and as such can enter into 'Heaven' unconditionally. There is no such thing as a 'bad' animal - there are only bad owners. Animals have no hidden agendas, they are pure in heart, and as such have a higher moral standing than we do. Humans are always planning, cheating, bitching, complaining, are vain, self centred amongst other things so how can we seriously think that we have a divine right to enter Heaven?

When our pet dies we can rest assured that it has gone to 'Heaven' and that when our time comes, we will meet them again and they will remember us. Therefore to grieve for your pet is as natural as grieving for a relative or friend. Do not feel guilty or anger when your beloved animal dies for it has come to the end of its journey in this earthly plane and has simply gone home to wait for you. Feel sorrow for your loss and for the temporary loss of your friend. This sorrow should not go on indefinitely for your pet has gone onto a better place where there is no pain or anguish and therefore you should feel comforted in this knowledge.

Every animal, large or small, deserves the same respect and treatment as we ourselves deserve and if we followed the maxim of ' Do unto others as you would have done to yourself' then perhaps we would be pure in heart as our pets are and the question of entry into 'heaven' would be a redundant one.

At goldendaysremembered we really do care about all animals, and this site restores our faith in human nature.

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Ever since I watched the 9/11 disaster from our summer home on the shores of New Jersey, this nervous Nellie has been a bit squeamish about going through the long Lincoln Tunnel that runs under the river from New Jersey and opens into the city. The city that I constantly dreamed of as a child, and that has for a long time held my heart, New York. But it finally took nothing stronger than a mother's love to pull me back again to the city of survival. My son, the rock star, was coming to town.

We arrived at Le Bar Bat on 57th Street where my husband and I were quickly ushered in behind the "big red velvet rope" guarded by men with muscles bigger than Arnold's.

Inside the door, we were stamped like a pork rump that has passed FDA inspection. From there a host herded us toward a pretty young woman in a fetching blue wig with a figure to die for who tagged us with Technicolor hospital-like bracelets that would allow us two free drinks.

She then moved us on to another amazingly handsome young man with the whitest teeth I have ever seen who pinned us with flashing lapel pins that said something I couldn't for the life of me read upside down. It could have said "Big Jerk for Letting This be Pinned on You", for all I knew. He then sent us on to another beautiful girl wearing a pink wig who decked us out in fluorescent blue neck ring. I think she said something about free massages and Tarot card reading, but before I could question my hearing that was altered severely by my rock concert earplugs, we were moved along like a herd of cattle by the swell of enthusiastic Tonic fans behind us.

One would think that after a few years of attending rock concerts and hanging out in the dressing room with kids who are my age divided by three, that I would be used to it by now. But long ago I have given up my pathetic attempts to blend in and not be so obviously, "What is she doing here?" The truth is that even the 'clueless' figure out that my husband and I have to be someone's parents.

Trust me, if you ever want to feel your age, just go to a rock concert. It is a humbling experience being with kids who never think they are ever going to be, nor look as old as you.

But in the end there is sweet ex-girlfriend revenge for old folks like us. While others are tramping through the cold to city garages, or waiting in the chilly night wind for a cab, bus, or subway to take them home, life can be sweet for the parents of a rock star.

For instance, when your son gives you a lift at 3 a.m. back to your Chelsea apartment in his new bright tour bus that is as long as a New York City cross-town block and the color of Christmas. And better than that, when he then drops you smack in front of your canopied door, you know you have a special life.

So what if the few bleary-eyed people wandering in the streets at that ungodly hour were scratching their heads at us two tired button-down seniors hopping (actually dragging) out of this crimson machine made to carry only young, hip people. And, okay, what if being supportive of your kid's things kind of makes you seem crazy sometimes. The truth for us is that there are no better perks that stepping out of a big red bus in the middle of the morning after a great night of forgetting how old you really are. Life just doesn't get better than that!

Sandra Hart is the former Ms. Sandra of the children's television program Romper Room and is a working actress in both film and television, an award-winning author and a popular motivational speaker. She is a member of the National Leadership council of NARSAD (National Alliance for Research on Schizophrenia and Depression) and host of http://www.sandrahart.net and http://www.livingwithpmr.com

Meditation usually keeps me in a very blissed out or peaceful state. Yet a few mornings ago I found myself swimming in negativity. It was the usual stuff - money problems, blaming others, and a whirlwind of thinking.

I even had trouble starting the car.

What the heck was going on?

Then I realized what I had done the night before. I'd watched a dvd rental of the movie "The Interpreter". By most standards the movie was fantastic. There was brilliant acting by academy award winners Nicole Kidman and Sean Penn.

The story was absolutely riveting. White knuckles all around. The timing was brilliant.

Yet the next morning I was swimming in an emotional swamp. That was me, the meditation devotee, rubbing elbows with Swamp Thing.

It might have had a lot to do with what I put into my mind just before bedtime. The movie began with graphic surprise murders committed by children.

Later there was fear of the unknown complete with the message that you can't trust anyone.

This kind of stuff can temporarily undo the benefits of meditation.

But the negativity continued.

The bad guy was a former humanitarian who turned into the mass murdering dictator that killed the leading lady's parents.

There was character building followed by murders. This happened over and over again.

There was a bus explosion inviting viewers to believe that it's unsafe to ride public transportation.

The show continues with opportunities to seek ex-girlfriend revenge. To kill or not to kill, that is the question.

Yuck!

Maybe this video triggered my emotional slump. Maybe the slump came from some unknown combination of factors.

The point is that we can use what we know to climb out of slumps. And we can make choices that help us minimize the number and depth of slumps.

I was able to climb upwards with the help of an observer meditation and some bliss exercises. It took six minutes to feel much better and another twenty minutes to feel a whole lot better.

We can always make a choice. We can select the most uplifting activity. We can choose what music to play. And, of course, we can choose what movies and TV shows to watch.

You can watch CSI and view horrendous images throughout the television show. For a bonus, you can hear the words "serial killer" repeated ten times in a two minute period.

Or you can make a different choice. You might choose to watch something such as "Joan of Arcadia" or "My Name is Earl". They'll remind you of some valuable life principles. FYI, these great shows are available as dvd rentals.

How do we know what's uplifting?

Popularity is no indicator of what's uplifting. Most movie and television reviews are based on other standards.

You can check with a dvd rentals website that gives you reviews based on a feel good rating or a life lesson rating.

We always have a choice.

Copyright (c) 2007 by Jim Kitzmiller

Jim Kitzmiller is a spiritual author and meditation leader. His Meditation Vacations website helps you bypass expensive spiritual distractions. The site has simple meditations and suggestions to help you recognize and experience Divine Essence in yourself and everything around you.

Having hundreds of meditators every day, the Observing Your self meditation is possibly the most popular meditation on YouTube.

Jim's DVD Rentals Fan website gives you empowering reviews on movies, television shows, and other dvd's. These reviews are empowering because they are based on the feel good factor or the life lesson factor.

Jim's book, Rocket Fuel for the Soul: Blissercise Self-Help Manual gives you over 400 exercises to experience bliss and peace by surrendering to God's Will.